Failure is your best friend. Face it and embrace it

“The scariest moment is always just before you start.” Steven King

While the experience of failure may hurt your pride and self-esteem, failure teaches you in ways success can’t. Failure makes you resilient and shapes you as a person. It is this resilience that cultivates a stronger relationship with your success, and that gives a positive outlook on life when faced with the toughest difficulties.

Being alive means that you will experience failure. This is unavoidable. Get up and choose to learn from it. You can only emerge victorious if you keep trying again and again.

Failure is a teacher

“Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.” - Denis Waitley

In the face of failure, we are presented with two choices. Learn from it and try again, or give up. When you take risks to achieve goals, when you take on a new project, when you tackle a new subject, you will most likely encounter failure at several turns.

Recognizing this before you begin any project, and accepting the lessons that failure has to teach you will only make you stronger, smarter and a better human being. Learn to embrace failure and all its teachings

Failure creates knowledge and creativity

Failure is not falling down but refusing to get up. Every problem is an opportunity in disguise. Failure forces you to deepen your knowledge, it forces you to practice harder and to become master of your art.

J.K. Rowling, whose best-selling Harry Potter novel was rejected dozens of times says:

“Failure meant a stripping away of the inessential. I stopped pretending to myself that I was anything other than what I was, and began to direct all my energy to finishing the only work that mattered to me. Had I really succeeded at anything else, I might never have found the determination to succeed in the one area where I truly belonged. I was set free, because my greatest fear had been realized, and I was still alive, and I still had a daughter whom I adored, and I had an old typewriter, and a big idea. And so rock bottom became a solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.”

Failure keeps you down to earth

“If you’re not prepared to be wrong, you’ll never come up with anything original.” - Ken Robinson

When you go through failure, you realize the value of all things. On one end of the spectrum, you appreciate the value of healthy relationships, and on the other end, you appreciate the value of your money. When you will have experienced being at the lowest point that you could possibly be, there is no more fear.

Manny Pacquiao was 12 years old when he moved to Manila and sold cigarettes on the streets. According to Forbes, he was the second highest-paid athlete in the world as of 2015

“I remember as a little boy I ate one meal a day and sometimes slept in the street. I will never forget that and it inspires me to fight hard, stay strong and remember all the people of my country trying to achieve better for themselves.” Manny Pacquiao

Failure makes you stronger

There will always be people that will try to discredit you or put you down. Failure can tear you down. It can hurt your self-esteem and pride.

But Failure will also give you that thick skin that you need to walk on the road of success. It can build you up in ways you never thought possible if you let it. People that have failed at several endeavors in their lifetime are mentally much stronger and better prepared to tackle sudden adversity and obstacles.

I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear. Nelson Mandela

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